Loneliness

Loneliness is hard. Everyone knows that. No human likes to live alone.
The question is why?
I have seen relationships that simple were not working.
I have seen relationships working by fear alone.
I have seen relationships based on violence.
I have seen relationships dependent of material goods.
In al cases if you ask why they keep together the most common answer is because I can not live alone.
Loneliness is the worst punishment possible for a human being. The solitary confinement on prisons is an example.
People left on solitary for a long period will get mentally and physically ill over time.
Is it because people need people?
Well not exactly. Some people turns out to pets from whatever type, color and shape in order to cope with loneliness.
In this case they turn their pets into their companions.
They talk to then, they tend their needs, they hold then tight and call then sweet names.
Well basically they love then.
So can Love be the answer? Can Love be what people in the end need? The ability of been able to love and to be loved back.
People will stand everything if they love and fell loved for someone.
I had a friend that had a bad relationship with her boyfriend. He really mistreated her, not physically at that point, but by all other ways.
She has nice and beautiful and I several times asked her why she persisted to have that relationship that simply was tearing her apart. Why simply not move on.
Her answer was adamant:
-Because I love him, and I know that he also does in the deep of his heart!
I tried to point out that his love should be very deeply hidden indeed.
At this point she got mad and told me that I could not understand it, because I never had been that in love so I could not know.
At the end she did stop talking to me as, by her words, I was not interested in her happiness.
I really believe that it is Love that drives most of our actions.
Not Love as in sexually motivated, but the basic feel of belonging and to belong, of, in the end, a sense of completion. Humans do need to feel that they matter to someone and that someone matters to then.
At solitary confinement what breaks you in the end is the lack of interaction with others. But as long as you know that in the end you will get back to your group where they will manifest their support. If you do not have anyone to return to that the breakdown will be certain.
Because then you are lonely. Life becomes a succession of days and nights, and in the end a total emptiness will fill you as a person.
It is the same for people that for one reason or the other have their personal solitary confinements. Worst in their cases they feel more and more by each passing day that only death will put an end on it. At least prison solitary will have an end date.

Loneliness will empty you inside out.
Love, by the other end will feed you of those moments when you are holding hands with someone and the world simply vanishes and there is nothing then simply 2 people just in love by each other. Moments when everything makes sense, and you fell that your life is full and makes all the sense.
 It is the search to have then back again that motivates people to avoid loneliness throw bad relationships where most of the times those moments are gone for good.